Will Social Media Change the Mating Ritual?

Written by on December 19th, 2010

Find your mate on Social Media Behavior Dating Site

I was reading an article by Jenna Wrortham today titled, “So Much for reinventing Ourselves Online”. The author was sharing an experience she had after writing an article on dating sites. Newly single she posted an anonymous profile and almost immediately a note entered her mailbox.

My digital admirer said he’d recognized me from a different site, Foursquare, the mobile social network that lets users broadcast their whereabouts to friends. It awards virtual mayorships to the most frequent patrons of bars and restaurants; I’d claimed the crown at a sushi restaurant. When my admirer checked into the joint with Foursquare, a notification declaring my status as mayor popped up, along with my photo and name.

She immediately recognized that with all of the data that we share with others, it’s impossible to be anonymous online!

So it got me thinking about how people will select mates in the future.

Everyone dating is a liar!

Dating sites are liars’ outposts.

A profile of someone on a dating site is a compilation of personalities and attitudes the persons WANTS to project to prospective dates, right?

They rarely represent the actual person. Everyone lies about their weight, height, degree, income, looks and personality. Nearly all profiles are filled with white lies, stretches of the truth and out right fabrications. So how can you vet people to find out who they really are before you get your heart broken?

So what if there was a program that analyzed what people did?

Let’s think out of the box for a minute and reinvent the dating process. Let’s create a new site, for the purpose of this discussion we’ll call it behaviormatch.com

The goal of this new site is to use Social Media, Facebook applications and other online data sites that share data to build a tool that can identify a person’s behavior and then match it with personality traits that others are looking for.

Let’s say you are looking for an ambitious, funny person who loves travel, is kind, loves their family and is considerate. A typical dating site would include check off boxes that a person would click on the relevant matches. However at this dating site, the software is going to go out and analyze the behavior of people who match the criteria and bring back people based on “what they do”, not “what they say!”

To find the right match, behaviormatch.com asks you to identify the attributes you want.

So you enter the age, sex, location and few other things (if you wanted to you could share hobbies, movies, books, interests etc.). Now you hit SEARCH, and viola, you are immediately presented with a series of people who match your criteria. The software instantly went out and analyzed a database of behaviors and profile information to find your match.

Your results

Now, neatly outlined on your screen is the first name of the person and substantiating data, comments and communication.

When you look at Juan, (the most likely match) you see comments he made on his Linkedin page that announced his promotion. You also read the testimonials others shared about him. You can see that he has added 5 apps categorized as funny and that an application where friends describe friends personalities, identified Juan as, “off the chart funny”. As you scroll down the page, you are presented with 6 Facebook comments where Juan gushes about his grandmother, his mother and his kid sister. Finally you see a list of data points that show he matches the criteria. Now Juan is sounding good, right!

So now that you‘ve identified 3 additional candidates, you elect to pay for the Social Media Behavior Analysis Dating service. Here’s where this gets fun. The software will now build a profile; much like HootSuite does of all your Social Media sites, and delivers to your desktop everything relevant the targeted candidates are posting. You see Facebook posts, Twitter posts, comments they make in Linkedin, and everything they have liked or recommended using Facebook Pluggins. The software, all the while is analyzing the behavior and data and continues to provide you an update of which candidate is matching your profile request.

After watching the candidates you select two to friend and build a relationship with. So you reach out to them to get to know them. You comment on their comments, photos and attend the same events they are attending. You join the same groups they are joining.

As you watch them over the next 4 months you vet out the data sets provided and look for anomalies and ethical missteps and issues that arise that might send you packing before you got committed and had your little heartbroken! Knowing that you are probably going to make emotional decisions, the software will point out specific behavior issues and FORCE you to acknowledge that you are aware the candidate is showing lapse in the selection criteria.

And that’s it. The future of finding a mate.

This new technique takes the bravado out of the personal profile and enables you to find the right mate based on their behavior.  It might sound creepy, but think about how you are using Social Media already to step into others lives.  

Anyone want to develop this with me!

Updating your Fan Page – Sucks! Or does it?

Written by on August 8th, 2010

My little secret will make updating your Fan page effortless and fun

I’ve talked to hundreds of organizations and businesses who are cautiously adding a Facebook Fan page. But beyond the fear and trepidation of setting it up, there is an enormous anxiety about “ what’s next?.”

  1. What do we say in our News Feed?
  2. How do we get people to Fan us?
  3. What if someone says something we don’t approve?
  4. Worse, what if they bash us?

And most importantly they say, “How am I to find the time to do this?” And it’s not just that, most people are not sure how to organize the process of becoming an editor and publisher of their Fan page.

So I’m going to share with you a little secret.

The good news is this secret is free and it works.

In fact it’s the simplest technique I could find to create a process to organize this so you don’t have to fret about it. This process will enable you to spend 10 – 20 minutes a week updating your Fan page with content that will keep people commenting which will get the attention of their friends and increase your fan base.

You only need one piece of software to make this work. It’s your gmail or Outlook calendar. So here’s the secret.

Create a reoccurring event in your outlook and let it run for say, 90 days. I set mine up to occur at 7 am Monday, Wednesday and Friday. And I call the calendar event, Facebook Fan Page Update. So now that I have 36+ on my calendar I can sit back and let Outlook remind me to update the Fan page.

But wait, wait, there’s more to this secret!

So your next step is to set aside 20 minutes to find content on others websites that your audience would be interested in, and that validates your message, product or theme. It might be videos from YouTube, serious research, a blog article, an article in a major news source or something fun and interesting from Wikipedia. In 20 minutes you should be able to find 3 interesting, relevant pieces of content that you can copy the link and write a short intro to for your News Feed.

The next thing to do is simply copy the link and the content into the day of the week you want to share it. Then on that day, drop it in and it’s posted. I know what you are thinking! Wouldn’t it be great if there was software that would let you post content for an entire month and walk away from it? There is, but, for the moment – you don’t want to pay for it!

So that’s it. It’s simple fast and it provides you a framework to fit this additional responsibility into your daily life, but more importantly change your behavior so you actually do it!

Now, that you have mastered updating content, we’ll need to circle back around and evaluate how people are responding to the content with Insights. You my friend are just getting started on a process that is going to suck more and more of your time, but research is suggesting it’s worth it.

Check out some of the latest posts that confirm this at:

www.facebook.com/internetstrategiesgroup

Fans not only will BUY MORE from you, they will more likely RECOMMEND YOU!

Army of tweeting students, alumni and staff to increase enrollment

Written by on January 9th, 2010

H&R Block provides example college admissions can adopt!

 The headline of this blog today was inspired by an article in Advertising Age written by Beth Snyder Bulik.

H&R Block as you know, prepares tax statements for millions of customers.  It’s a very seasonal business – but its big business!  There are nearly 13,000 retail shops around the country and the company has 100,000 employees.

H&R started to notice that behaviors of consumers were changing last year when they recognized that out of the 95 million tax returns that were filed electronically, nearly 1/3 of them were from home computers.  They realized they needed to offer a home computer tax program to not only build their brand, but offer a bridge to their retail shops.

To market their program they decided to incorporate both traditional advertising and social media marketing.  Their goal was to use social media to educate customers, answer questions, build brand awareness and leverage the conversations that develop into visits to their corporate page where the visitor could select a retail shop to help them prepare their taxes or purchase their software.

To accomplish that, H&R built a 1,000 employees social media army!   They provided this team an overview of their strategy, what they wanted to accomplish, outlined their goals and offered basic training on social media.  According to Bulik:

The social-media strategy includes a Twitter account, widgets, blogs, a YouTube channel and a Facebook fan page and apps — a recent one in the form of a quiz asks, “How deductible are you?”

Why did they do that?

If the average person on Twitter has 100 friends, 1,000 employees have an opportunity to reach not only 1,000,000 people but their tweets have the ability to reach the 100 people that each of the people they know are connected to.   That’s a big number!   And they don’t have to pay a marketing, PR or advertising channel to reach them.

This army could be on any of their social networks and respond when:

  • Someone mentions they have to do their taxes
  • A tax question is asked
  • Someone is interested in finding a place that provides loans based on taxes due to the person
  • Someone is looking for a person to do their tax
  • Someone shares an issue they have had with the IRS

While Social Media monitoring software catches this information, it’s people that respond.  Because even in this new online world, “people still do business with people”.

So how would your company unleash an army of Social Media?   Let’s take a look at this from the college recruitment angle.

Admissions offices could do the same thing.

Think about it, a college has thousands of students, tens of thousands of alumni (if not hundreds of thousands) and dozens of staff  that could form the core of the Social Media team.  This army of people could be create a variety of content in audio, video, text and or photographs to build the college brand, engage prospective students and maintain mindshare of prospective students.

  • Students could be sharing information about events, activities and courses.
  • Alumni could share experiences, career advice.
  • Faculty could offer min courses, answer questions.
  • Prospective students could be talking about their visits, sharing research and students, alumni and faculty they are meeting.

And of course all could be engaging prospective students in dialogue.

Why does this make sense? 

  1. It’s cheap! It’s repeatable and once you’ve built the system it runs by itself.
  2. Everyone I just mentioned has a vested interest in seeing the college succeed.
  3. This Social Media team represents authentic voices that prospective students will believe.

Experts today remind us that you no longer have control of your brand

Your brand exists in the people we’ve listed above.  Prospective students no longer pay attention to the “slogans and phrases” colleges work so hard to create and market. Students today pay just as much or more attention to what people they know say about the college.

So what are the steps to implement a social media strategy within a college admissions office?

We’ll cover that in upcoming blog articles.  ? leave a comment or call 800-805-9413.

Use the “Crowd sourcing” in 2010 to Run your Business & Life!

Written by on January 3rd, 2010

Twitter, Facebook and other social media will help you make decisions

Growing up in the 60’s was an incredible time and yet stressful time.  Everything was in flux.  The role of a father was changing from the master and ruler of his domain to one where he shared power with his wife, sex came out in the open, equality finally was put on the front burner and students learned how to collectively band together to change the world!

It was a decade that sought to give “Power to the People”.  A time in which people were actively exercising their right to be involved in decisions.

In the 40 some years since that movement started, I don’t think 16 year olds forgot about the values associated with power to the people.  As they grew up, they changed the world, made it more transparent, worked to provide equality in race, pay and ability, thought more about the environment rights and much more.

Now as we enter the next decade, technology is going to take “power to the people” to a whole NUTHER level.  Technology is giving individuals, corporations and non profits the ability to reach out and use the power of the people to accomplish things that would not have been achievable.  Today we call that “Crowd sourcing”  (…More…)

25 Reasons -WHY- You need a Facebook Strategy

Written by on May 12th, 2009

Facebook 101 executive suiteEveryone benefits, a pizza shop, candy store, small business and large corporation

Over the weekend I wrote a 30 page white paper called, Facebook 101 for the Executive Suite.  A friend and a CIO I’ve been working with the last couple of months thought the “executive suite”  would benefit from having a overview of how Facebook could be used in their firm.

After reflecting on how to present the opportunities to VP’s, Presidents and the C level administrators, I came up with:

  • 4 fundamental changes in consumer behaviors they need to be aware of
  • 4 ways a firm can tap into an anticipated 300 million user base
  • 5 ways an organization will benefit by developing a Facebook strategy
  • 12 best practices and proven Internet strategies
  • How various departments in your firm can benefit by participating in Facebook

As usual, for me, it’s hard to write a 8 page whitepaper.  This baby came in at 30 plus pages.  At any rate, over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be sharing this information with you.

I’ll start by explaining the 4 behavior changes that will drive how you lead and manage your business in the coming decade.  We’ll first examine Community, then follow up with looks at Content, Collaboration and Communication.  The four C’s!

Can Facebook Deliver Leads to Your Business? YES!

Written by on November 30th, 2008

Facebook Add

What would 580,000 advertising impressions do for your business?

Al Gore gets kidded for suggesting he invented the Internet.  Around my house I get teased for suggesting to my kids that I invented Facebook.

Back in 1996, I created an online community for students and called it StudentAccess.  We modeled the community around GeoCities and Tripod with a focus only on college students.  We provided a free home page, email address and photo upload.  We ran ads in student magazines around the country and anxiously waited for students to show up.  Nobody came!   Not only was it a total failure, but I ended up getting sued by Princeton Review for using the name Student Access! (They had a line of books called StudentAccess to Law, Medical, etc.)  Thirty thousand dollars later, we surrendered the URL studentaccess.com to Princeton Review and decided to focus in a different direction.

Fast forward 7 years and Mark Zuckerberg launched Facebook, which has become one of the largest – online communities in the world.    Enough old boy stories,  let’s get back to the reason you are reading this post. (…More…)

Facebook API for a Pizza Shop?

Written by on November 26th, 2008

4 benefits of adopting a Facebook API for your business!

Over the past 3 years, I’ve had 1500 people attend webinars who were interested in figuring out how to use Pizza Hut FacebookFacebook in their businesses and organizations.  I like to remind people that Facebook is the new Yellow Pages and in fact it’s probably, like MySpace could be considered the largest phone book in the world.

In the spring of 2007 Facebook announced their Facebook Platform, a programming and business strategy that gave any organization the ability to create a program that would enable them to engage and interact with customers, prospects and others.  Colleges have an incredible opportunity to connect and engage with prospective students, students, fans, supporters and alumni but none are taking advantage of it.

But businesses, who understand you have to innovate to make a profit and work to keep customers due to competition, get it!

Pizza Hut is no stranger to utilizing social media tools to engage customers. Their Facebook page now has over 300,000 fans and to attract more, they offered anyone who became a Pizza Hut fan (through the end of the year) would be eligible for the weekly prize of a $50 gift card. (…More…)

Starbucks Missed the Boat?

Written by on August 3rd, 2008

About 6 years ago I sent an overnight letter to Starbucks headquarters suggesting they consider offering their customers a private, password protected online community to continue to build their brand, engage customers and gather more data about their customers.

At the time my firm provided online communities to groups and organizations in the higher education space and we were looking for a way to leverage our product in the commercial market.  The company executive I sent my letter to was preoccupied with other issues at the time and my subsequent follow up phone call was met with a response,  well – similar to what you’ve heard from time to time in your  career – don’t call us, we’ll call you!

Fast forward to 2008 and we see Starbucks coming out with what they call their new customer online community called Mystarbucksidea.com.   The community offers customers an opportunity to help direct where the company is going and is modeled after a number of successful examples including Dell’s  Community Forum and Salesforce’s Ideastorm.   (…More…)